少即是多，七步帮孩子的大小情绪找一个家（双语） 合璧儿

太多时候，我们面对孩子的情绪不知所措， 忘了孩子也需要自己的空间和时间来梳理自己的心绪。谁不希望有一个可以躲藏哪怕几分钟的私密空间，一个可以完全放松，窥视自己内心的温柔角落？有很多时候，话不必多，多给Ta点时间和空间就够了。...



太多时候，我们面对孩子的情绪不知所措， 忘了孩子也需要自己的空间和时间来梳理自己的心绪。谁不希望有一个可以躲藏哪怕几分钟的私密空间，一个可以完全放松，窥视自己内心的温柔角落？有很多时候，话不必多，多给Ta点时间和空间就够了。与其笨手笨脚地梳理孩子的情绪，也许你的心思应该在这七步上。

1. Find them a  place where they can be alone.  This works best if it is a place that is all their own.  A place where they know they can escape to, and no one is going to be there.  Sometimes kids just need to be alone.  This is the place where they can go and know that they won’t be bothered. For us, it was the corner nook between my daughters bunk bed and her wall.

给他们找一个可以一个人单独呆着的地方。最好是完全意义上的一个人，这样效果最好不过。他们可以逃进那个地方，没有人会去打扰。有时候，孩子只是需要一个人待一会儿。让他们知道有这么一个地方，他们可以不被打扰。对于我们来说，这个地方在我女儿的上下铺和墙之间。

2. Make this place special.  How can you make it feel personal and special for them?  Add decorations.  Wall vinyls work perfectly.  Use some of their favorite colors or favorite things. This will instantly help them to feel more comfortable because they are feeling happy seeing their favorite things.

让这个地方与众不同。怎么才能让孩子感觉这个角落对他们来说很特别，很私密呢？加入一些装饰。刷涂料是一个很好的方法，用他们喜欢的颜色或者物品把这里装饰起来。这些会让他们立刻感觉到舒适，因为当他们看到自己喜欢的物品时，会觉得很开心。

3. Make it feel comfortable. Add blankets and pillows so when they are feeling sad they can feel as comfortable and possible.  Feeling snuggly with soft pillows and blankets will help calm them down.

让这个地方很舒适。放一些毯子、枕头，这样当他们感到伤心的时候，他们在这里会感觉很舒适。暖和舒适地依靠在软软的枕头和毯子里面，可以让他们镇静下来。

Include a favorite stuffed animal or doll

4.  Include a favorite stuffed animal or doll.  Sometimes they just need a hug.  Sometimes they just need a snuggle.  Unfortunately, they are wanting to be alone, so a person is not who they want to receive it from.  A simple hug or snuggle with their favorite doll might just do the trick!

放一个他们喜欢的毛绒动物玩具或者娃娃。有的时候他们只是需要一个拥抱，有时候他们需要的是舒服的蜷缩在那里，可惜的是，他们需要的是一个人，而不是来自大人的拥抱。一个简单的拥抱或者依偎和他们喜欢的玩偶，就够了。

5. My daughter loves to write.  She is so creative in her stories.  Writing helps her to escape into her story and often help her to forget what made her sad or mad in the first place.  Leave a journal and fun pens out for writing.

我女儿喜欢写作。她自己写的故事很有创意。写作能够帮助她逃到她自己的故事里，帮助她忘记那些让她感到伤心或者生气的事情。给她一个日记本和一些好玩儿的笔，让她自己去写。

6. Does your child have a favorite book?  This is a great time to take 15 minutes to calm down by reading their favorite story. It doesn’t matter if they have read it a  million times, if they love the story they won’t mind.  Keep their favorite book in their calming nook.

你的孩子有喜欢的书吗？当他不安的时候，花上15分钟给他读他喜欢的故事，再好不过了。即便是他已经读过无数遍了，也没关系，因为如果他喜欢的话，就根本不会介意。把他们喜欢的书放在那个安静的角落里面。

7. Give them a Calming Jar.  Calming Jars are fun because they can angrily shake the jar as hard as they want then slowly watch as the glitter settles.  This has a calming effect that helps the emotions also settle.  I personalized my jar with a little message for my daughter so she remembers that I love her!

给他们一个能让他们安静下来的罐子。这些罐子非常有趣，因为当他们生气的时候，他们可以狠狠地摇晃这些罐子，然后安静地看着里面的亮片缓慢的落下来。这可以让他们的情绪平复下来。我把这个罐子贴上了一条爱的信息，让我的女儿记得我爱她。

1.Find an old water bottle or shaped jar.  Plastic naturally works best because it is lighter and unbreakable!

2. Fill jar with HOT water.

3.  Add desired about of glitter to the hot water.  I recommend using your child’s favorite color.

4.  Add a small amount of glue to the water.

5.  Shake, shake, shake like CRAZY! This step is important to break up the glue.

6. Use super glue to seal the lid onto the bottle so your kid can’t open it and dump it out.    I have a two year old that would find lots of joy in dumping it out!

7.  I used my Cricut Machine, to personalize the jar.  A simple Love You, reminds my daughter that even if she is mad or sad, she is loved!!

1.找一个旧的水瓶，或是造型罐。最好是塑料的，因为比较轻而且不易碎。

2.把这个罐子装入热水。

3.在热水里加入一些五颜六色的亮片，我推荐用你的孩子喜欢的颜色。

4.在热水里放少量胶水。

5.使劲儿的摇晃！这一步非常关键，让胶水完全溶解。

6.用强力胶把液体密封，这样你的孩子就打不开，也不会把他们倒出来了。我两岁的孩子特别喜欢把液体倒出来玩儿。

7.我用剪纸打印机让镇静罐子更有个性化。一个简单的“爱你”，在我的女儿生气或者伤心的时候提醒着她，我爱她。

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