B班的故事｜距离
这么近，那么远...
安吉拉说
距离是个神奇的东西。它可测量，又不可测量；它会保护你，又会伤害你。
从离开母亲子宫的那天起，每个人都在和周围的世界测试距离：有亲近，有疏远；有相聚，有别离。
十三岁孩子心里的“距离”是怎样的一方天地？
你会看到友情和亲情，还有爱情，请不要讶异。
友情的距离
十三四岁的年纪里，最容易有“不跟你好了”的小别扭，多年后回想起来让人抚额失笑的小破事儿，当年却是心头一桩重重的大事。今天的故事发生在一对同桌之间，尽管故事小主并不介意，但还是隐去名字，A是她，J是他。
周五的早上，走过小七班的教室，看到J贴着窗台挪步过来。他看到我羞涩地笑了笑，露出健康白净的牙，轻轻喊了声“Angela”，然后擦肩而过。
等走到教室后门，忽然门内闪出一个修长的身影拦住我，是有着腼腆笑容爱画画的A。
Angela，我想找你说件事。
她有点小严肃，和小紧张。
没问题啊。我挽着她走到走廊窗边。
他不理我了。她指指前面已走远的J，她的大班同桌。
怎么了？我失笑。预感到要做调解大妈。
我数学比较弱，他英语不好，之前我们在互相补课。我的数学有进步，可他昨天英语还是没考好，我说了他几句。
你说了他什么？
我说虽然我数学也不算考得很好，可没有你英语这么烂。他生气了。后来我和他道歉了，但他还是不理我。
你觉得为什么他不接受你的道歉？
可能我说得太重了，他可能觉得我的道歉没有诚意。我知道他自尊心很强，可是没想到有这么强。
你们两个学科这么互补坐在一起真是缘份啊。看得出来你们俩对这件事都挺在意的，对你来说这也是锻炼换位思考的好机会，只不过暂时僵持在这里了。要不我做个第三方，找他谈一谈？
小姑娘欣喜：太好了，谢谢Angela！
我笑了，Angela其实也没把握，是不是能做成这个和事佬。
上午最后一节课下课，A经过我身边时提醒我：和他约了吗？我示意她约好了，她似乎松了一口气。
中午J如约来找我，图书角坐定，先聊了一些其他的，然后我问：
听说你和A出了点状况？
他有点不好意思：我英语没考好，她嘲笑我。
你很受伤？
我不想理她了。
看来她的确说得挺重的。她早上和我说了这件事，她觉得很抱歉。她向你道歉了？
是的，不过我还是不想理她。
好吧。不过我觉得蛮可惜的，两个同桌在这么短的时间里就能找到互补的点，她还是很在意你的感觉的，不然的话也不会努力想解决这个问题，如果不睬就不睬，可能也就这么散了。你以前有过惹同学或朋友生气的经历吗？
小学有过。
后来怎么解决的？
我和他说对不起，然后就好了。
那这次自己生气了为什么过不去了呢？
我不知道，反正我现在不想理她。
今天星期五了，那过个周末回来是不是就好了？
大概吧，我不知道。
OK，过个周末不开心的就会过去啦，男子汉大丈夫，没啥大不了哒。
那个周末不知道他们是怎么度过的，也许还挂在心上，也许已经被其他事冲淡，只是彼此都需要一个有台阶的收尾。
也真巧，周一中午小教室，临近上课时间，J一人在过口头作业，刚结束我正想问他周末是不是已经消了气，A跑进来问我点事情。
哈哈正好，你们俩怎样？没问题了吧？
一对可爱的同桌，有点扭捏地笑：嗯......嗯，应该没问题了吧。
回到办公室，翻开早上没改完的作业，正好看到A写在本子上的“番外作业”：
Angela,
Thank you for your help. During your conversation, I was so worried. When J came back to the classroom, he didn’t talk to me. But just then, my bottle fell down, and he tried to pick it up. I was so excited! I said “sorry” to him and he smiled. At last, we became friends again. I will think about others’ feelings next time.
Yours,
A
原来那天下午两个小家伙就已尽弃前嫌……让我这个和事佬多担了一个周末的心。不过，还是很感谢他们让我见证了这个“同桌的你”的故事。
年少时会轻狂，会无知，怎样才是最美好的距离？
亲情的距离
“Family”是英语课必经之话题，只是同一个话题在不同的时代会受到不同的挑战。比如现在：
老师说：每个人周末的时候发一张全家福到我邮箱，下周上课要用。Q群有家长回复：老师我们离婚很多年了，没有全家福。——抱歉，老师考虑不周全，没有照片当然也没关系。只是，私事是不是私聊更好，给孩子保留一点隐私？回头想我们的课堂活动，很有可能一不小心就触及他人的私人领地。分享固然重要，也要把握分寸。
家庭种类何其多：nuclear, extended, single-parent, DINK…还有其他的吗？小朋友们想到了失去父母的，还有……两个爸爸或两个妈妈的。听到后者，有人尴尬了，有人兴奋了。——索性拿来Modern Family第一季第一集的前四分钟：Phil和Claire一家还属常态，老夫少妻的Jay和Gloria，和刚领养了越南女孩Lily的Mitch和Cam让小朋友们开了不少眼界。观察他们看剧时的表情，有“太好玩了”，有“额……好乱”，也有“我就知道你们会有歧视”，文化和文化之间也有它们各自的距离，有趣得紧。Angela附赠一句话收尾：It takes all kinds to make a world.
单元的末尾，大家写了一篇小文章，来自于课堂上的讨论：How close are you and your parents? 小朋友们有反思，有抒情，有的幸福满溢，有的槽点多多，父母和孩子之间的距离，从小文中可见一斑。
How Close Are We?
William
We were a happy family, but now things have changed.
I’m rarely happy now because I have too much work to do. Every day, except for the ten minutes to play video games, I am rarely relaxed. And when I do something wrong, my parents will be as angry as a lion.
Now we have no time to watch a movie(except the holiday) or go hiking together, so we show our love to each other less than before.
Things got so bad now. I hope things will turn back as before. We love each other deeply.
William
We were a happy family, but now things have changed.
I’m rarely happy now because I have too much work to do. Every day, except for the ten minutes to play video games, I am rarely relaxed. And when I do something wrong, my parents will be as angry as a lion.
Now we have no time to watch a movie(except the holiday) or go hiking together, so we show our love to each other less than before.
Things got so bad now. I hope things will turn back as before. We love each other deeply.
Angela点评：读了让人有些小心酸，压力下的孩子也许会更自律，也许会更放纵，皆看如何磨合。
How Close Are We?
Lisa
Everyone is really close to each other in my family. I am closer to my mom than to my dad because dad doesn’t come back home often.
I always tell my mom everything I think. She knows me very well. Sometimes she comforts me, chats with me and tells me what are right and wrong.
Although I am not so close to my dad, I still tell him a lot of new things. My dad sometimes teaches me how to protect myself, like what I should do when someone makes me feel awful or hurt me.
I think my family are very close to each other. We are a family full of love.
Lisa
Everyone is really close to each other in my family. I am closer to my mom than to my dad because dad doesn’t come back home often.
I always tell my mom everything I think. She knows me very well. Sometimes she comforts me, chats with me and tells me what are right and wrong.
Although I am not so close to my dad, I still tell him a lot of new things. My dad sometimes teaches me how to protect myself, like what I should do when someone makes me feel awful or hurt me.
I think my family are very close to each other. We are a family full of love.
Angela点评：律师妈妈和警察爸爸各司其职，Lisa是个幸福的小天使。
How Close Are We?
Tim
Home is my first school. I think it’s the best place. But at the age of 12 or 13, children may think home is boring and parents are crazy. I don’t think it’s good to think like that.
My parents are both kind. They are working hard and our life is sweet. My father is funny and my mother is a little strict. They can listen to me and are rarely angry with me, because being angry can’t make anything better. They teach me a lot. I love them.
Tim
Home is my first school. I think it’s the best place. But at the age of 12 or 13, children may think home is boring and parents are crazy. I don’t think it’s good to think like that.
My parents are both kind. They are working hard and our life is sweet. My father is funny and my mother is a little strict. They can listen to me and are rarely angry with me, because being angry can’t make anything better. They teach me a lot. I love them.
Angela点评：上课的时候Tim就表达了类似的观点：发怒并不能解决问题。讶异于Tim思考问题的冷静程度，和他简洁平实的语言，三两句便能说清自己的观点，这样的能力难能可贵。
How Close Are We?
Steven
Some children are unhappy when they are together with their parents. They don’t want to be near to their parents. So I want to ask myself: How close are we?
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