【婚姻】从恐龙的故事中学到的

不断地选择在头脑里称赞你的配偶，你将发现你说出来的也是溢美之词。...

从恐龙的故事中学到的功课继续……

#1 - 保持留意那些好的特质，清楚那些不好的特质但选择忽略它们。“爱”，他们说，“是盲目的。”当我和爱人恋爱时，确实如此。

在我们结婚后，我们才发现我们的一些性格特质对方不是非常喜欢。那些特质中的一些大大地激怒我们。同其他那些我们之间更严重的问题相比，那个过度使用的例子“从哪端挤牙膏” 实在无足轻重。

在早些年，我们因为许多那些问题反复地吵架。

我们每个人显然拥有许多美好的性格特质是吸引对方的。但是我们经常不欣赏反倒视为理所当然。



那两只恐龙是聪明的。他们留意那些好的特质（看那些大写的单词），而且清楚那些不好的特质（看那些小写的单词）的时候，他们选择忽略它们。

我和爱人随着我们的关系不断地深入学习到这一点。它对我们神奇有效。现在我们选择互相赞赏对方，而当一些残余的坏习惯偶尔插入进来一会儿也不生气。

我们许多谈话的整个时间都是谈论对方的优点。通过这样做，我们将那些坏习惯关在门外。

这两只恐龙走进下一步。他们用爱意蜜语融化彼此的心。



我想强调对彼此怀有爱意是非常重要的。

我们的行动和反应始于我们的想法。那就是为何对你的配偶怀有爱意是如此重要的原因。

我说的即是我想的，我的爱人也是如此。当我想起爱人的爱心和可爱时，我讲的话就是称赞她的话。这让她感觉很好，我也会感觉很好。

互相的称赞始于思想里的互相赞美。因此，不断地选择在头脑里称赞你的配偶，你将发现你说出来的也是溢美之词。

伟大的爱人们关于另一半想的、说的都是好的！

陈兆纪

英文原文 

[/b]Learning from the Dinosaurs

The lessons from the Dinosaurs continue ...

 

#1 - Keep looking out for the good traits, be aware of the bad ones but choose to overlook them.





"Love", they say, "is blind." It certainly was so while Michelle and I were courting.

It only dawned upon us after we were married that we had character traits that the other did not quite like. Some of those irritated us terribly. The over-used example of"which end of the toothpaste do we squeeze on" paled into insignificance when compared with some other more critical issues we had.

In the early years, we quarreled over many of those issues.

Each of us obviously had many good character traits that were pleasing to the other.Instead of appreciating those, we often took them for granted.

The Dinosaurs are smarter. They look out for the good traits (see words in capital letters) and while being aware of the bad ones (small letters), they choose to over  look them.

Michelle and I learned this as we grew deeper into our relationship. It worked wonders for us.Now, we choose to speak well of each other and do not take offense when some of the remnant bad habits pop up once in a while.

We spend a whole lot of our conversation saying the good things about the other. By so doing, we shut out the bad ones.



The Dinosaurs go one step further. They melt each others heart withKIND words andLOVINGthoughts.

I would like to emphasize the importance of having loving thoughts of each other.

Our action and reaction start from our thoughts. That is why it is so important to have loving thoughts of your spouse. I speak the way I think. And so does Michelle. When I think of Michelle being loving and lovely, I speak words that compliment that.This makes her feel good, and I feel good that she does.

Speaking well of each other starts with thinking well of each other. So, choose to fill your mind with good thoughts about your spouse constantly. You will find that what you say will be well too.

Great lovers think and speak well of the other!Steven

翻译：小蕾

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