内心不纠结，就是好人生

又纠结了，怎么办？人生总是面临着无穷无尽的选择，当难以做出决定时，试试这几个方法！...



When making your choice in life, do not forget to live.

——Samuel Johnson

当你在生活中做选择的时候，不要忘记享受生活。

——塞缪尔·约翰逊

生活不是单行道，总有无数种可能摆在面前，大到人生前行方向，小至当下的日常琐事。

早饭/午饭/晚饭吃什么，堪称上班族三大难题。

这件衣服很衬我的肤色，但条纹的图案又会显胖。

为了面包忍受朝九晚五，还是忠于自我追求诗和远方？面对选择，我们总会纠结、迟疑、焦虑，甚至恐慌或自责。

想着如果选择错了该怎么直面惨淡的人生。

可是我们往往忽略了，这种反复纠结的过程其实是在浪费生命，本身就是个错误。

不要把自己的生活调到纠结模式！当你难以做出决定时，可以试试下面的方法。

Traditional wisdom has long history of telling people to "just sleep on it" when making big decisions, implying that taking a few hours or days to make a decision can lead to better choices.

重大决定面前，传统的智慧会告诉我们“先缓一缓”，也就是多留些时间，这样相对的便会做出更好的选择。

Decisions are always made in an emotional way, but actually there is no benefit for doing so. In general speaking, people who are emotionally intelligent eliminate emotions from their decision-making instead of removing all the emotions away.
人们常常会被情绪左右，这对做出决定毫无用处。通常来说，情商高的人会选择性地剔除与决定无关的情绪，而不是把所有的情绪都抛开。

At the situations of making an important decision under stress, people are more likely to focus on the benefits rather than the potential downsides. So you need to keep your stress level in check, then consider the trade-offs with a clear mind, and eventually make your decisions.

在压力下做重要决定时，人们更倾向于考虑对自己有利的因素，而往往忽略潜在的消极影响。所以需要保持你的压力等级，清醒的权衡利弊，最终做出决定。

When you are dealing with things that are particularly intractable, such as family or marital issues, emotions will always cloud your judgement. A bystander is always clear-minded, so try to think about it as an outsider and keep some distances with the situation, and it will help you make wiser choices.
处理家庭或婚姻问题这种比较棘手的私人问题时，情绪常常会掩盖人的判断力。旁观者清，试着和当下环境保持一段距离，以旁观者的角度来思考，能帮你做出更明智的选择。遇到问题，慎重考虑是需要的，但切莫纠结。若将人生调成纠结模式，得到的除了无休止的内心纠缠，便是徒劳无功的挫败感了。所以，下次遇到难以抉择的事情，试试文中的方法！* 以上英文内容来源于外网

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